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So, you've grown up. You've gained fat in strange places, young women and men, thoughts have turned into fantasy. Meaning you've discovered boys and girls. Congrats! Well... not really.
In developing an attraction towards boys, you have now opened yourself to a new temptation. This temptation will probably be a central one in your life, from your adolesence till the day you get married. But don't despair; Allah has made us this way and He has given us rules on how to discipline ourselves.
First Rule: Don't copy the Kuffar. They deal with each other horribly. They are too weak to take responsibility for themselves. They learn through trial and error which, in the end, leaves people hurt, dirtied, diseased, pregnant or all of the above. Muslims take a more dignified, scientific approach. The best way to save yourself from sinning is avoiding questionable situations. Don't be buds with guys except your male relatives. It isn't smart to let a boy know about the particulars of your personality, especially the beauties of it. There are many beauties in your behavior alone that can sweep a guy off his feet. So, don't be buds with guys and dont hang out with them.
"A man does not meet privately with a woman without Satan being the 3rd." - Prophet Muhammad, reported by Tirmithee
Second Rule: Avoid ever touching guys. In the Western society, frendly hugging, grasping and patting are part of daily rituals but Muslims must avoid this. A woman's touch is a gift and a privilege which she only shares with men who are worthy, her husband and mahrem.
"It is better for one of you to be pierced by an iron needle in the head than touch the hand of a woman that is not allowed to him." - Prophet Muhammad, reported by Tabarani.
Another important thing is not to make yourself available to them. All of your frends should know that you're a Muslimah and that means you don't date, don't flirt and you don't give out free samples of yourself to guys. If you have to work with guys in school or at your job, let this rule be known and understood: Never act open towards them. Be reserved around non-mahrem men. Sure, it may seem a bit harsh, but this is your afterlife that's at stake.
zekra
In developing an attraction towards boys, you have now opened yourself to a new temptation. This temptation will probably be a central one in your life, from your adolesence till the day you get married. But don't despair; Allah has made us this way and He has given us rules on how to discipline ourselves.
First Rule: Don't copy the Kuffar. They deal with each other horribly. They are too weak to take responsibility for themselves. They learn through trial and error which, in the end, leaves people hurt, dirtied, diseased, pregnant or all of the above. Muslims take a more dignified, scientific approach. The best way to save yourself from sinning is avoiding questionable situations. Don't be buds with guys except your male relatives. It isn't smart to let a boy know about the particulars of your personality, especially the beauties of it. There are many beauties in your behavior alone that can sweep a guy off his feet. So, don't be buds with guys and dont hang out with them.
"A man does not meet privately with a woman without Satan being the 3rd." - Prophet Muhammad, reported by Tirmithee
Second Rule: Avoid ever touching guys. In the Western society, frendly hugging, grasping and patting are part of daily rituals but Muslims must avoid this. A woman's touch is a gift and a privilege which she only shares with men who are worthy, her husband and mahrem.
"It is better for one of you to be pierced by an iron needle in the head than touch the hand of a woman that is not allowed to him." - Prophet Muhammad, reported by Tabarani.
Another important thing is not to make yourself available to them. All of your frends should know that you're a Muslimah and that means you don't date, don't flirt and you don't give out free samples of yourself to guys. If you have to work with guys in school or at your job, let this rule be known and understood: Never act open towards them. Be reserved around non-mahrem men. Sure, it may seem a bit harsh, but this is your afterlife that's at stake.
zekra
